I don't know what advice to give you to make him see that you won't control your H again. I have to admit, if my W stopped trying to control me, I wouldn't believe its genuine. That's not to say that you would be like that, but its based on my current situation. However, I think you are doing the right thing and I would just respect him for now. That is one thing Husbands need. If your H doesn something wrong, it could be a simple thing like forgetting to fold the laundry, I would let that go. Its not worth it.
My W resents me, for what reason, I don't know. This marriage is not real and there is no love between us. They see nothing wrong with their behavior. My W has never apologized to me for her behavior and actions in the 19 years we are married. I have aplogized to her and have gone to confession (I am a Roman Catholic). The thing I hate the most about my W and her family is their PRIDE. They will never admit that they have done anything wrong because they don't feel they ever do, at least in things done to me.
I remember about 8 years ago my W complained I wasn't Romantic enough. I put something together for Valentines Day, which happened to be a Sunday that year. I bought a small 5 by 7 photo album at Hallmark that had the plastic inserts. My theme was days of the week so on the left side would be the day with 12 lines of poetry. For example, MONDAY meant that my W is the MOTHER of my children, WEDNESDAY meant her WORKING with the children and helping me through college. On the left side of the album was cartoon photos I found on the Internet of a couple that were bears. On Sunday, they were drinking a milk shake at a 1950's Drug Store. Then during the week, say on Tuesday, its their Wedding Day, then another day is the birth of their children. By Saturday, the male bear was walking with a cane and the female had a kerchief on her head and they were walking hand in hand on a sunset beach. So the progression of the album is they aged together as a couple.
I don't remember what day of the week she was reading, but she paused and I thought that I must have written something sentimental that would probably bring a tear to her eye. When she paused I asked her "Its touching isn't it?" She responded with, I will never forget it, "NO, ITS NOT THAT, ITS JUST YOUR GRAMMAR IS POOR." That completely took my heart out. I put my heart and soul into that and that was her only comment. I didn't bring it up then, but did years later and she never, ever aplogized, rather she said, "SO, YOU HAVE POOR SENTENCE STRUCTURE, WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE?
The BITCH doesn't get it. About 16 years ago, my W did have a problem with my sister, and I defended her and my sister and I didn't talk to each for 3 years. Yet my W is a coward who can't defend me. One time, I had severe abdominal pain because I have had plenty of surgeries (I don't have a colan and lost another 32 inches of my intestins due to a bowel obstruction). I had complained about my pain at her sisters engagement party. A few months later, I was at a funeral of a friend of hers who finally died from her 3rd bout with Cancer. At the reception, both her sisters and their husbands, came to my table holding their stomach making believe they were in pain and laughing at me. I couln't find a hole to crawl under and left shortly after to cry in my car and go back to work. I sent them an e-mail telling them how bad they made me feel. And do you know what, they complained to my W this past June about the e-mail and it upset my W. When I told her why I sent it, she gave no reaction because she doesn't give a S%%%.
Well, my H has said that it is hard to believe it's genuine, the changes in me, but, I believe since I have been consistent with them, he is hopefully beginning to believe it. I have let things go, like when he started throwing wads of paper from magazine ads in the floor, I think to get a rise out of me. I said nothing, but picked them up later when he was out of the room. Same with reminders to do anything around the house, I no longer tell him the obvious, he knows what needs to be done, when he decides to do it is up to him. I am also showing him and teeling him I respect him. I want to be the kind of wife God meant for me to be in the first place. I also told him that unlike in past years, he doesn't have to do anything to help get the house ready for the holidays this year. He always tires himself out with my demands to help do this and that, but not this year. I know that the wake up call I got about ow was the catalyst for this, I have genuinely been convicted in my heart for the sorry way I have treated him over the years. I cannot imagine what it must be like for you to live with this mess. For her family to be in on the cruelty is awful. At what point did she start acting so badly? has it always been so? Has her family always been so bad? I also say that if my H had given me such a precious gift on Valentine's Day, I would treasure it and even though my family calls me the English Teacher, I would never have said anything about the grammar. Actually, I do have something handmade from my H, coupons he cut out of cardboard, and wrote what they were for on them and put them in a little envelope he made. I treasure that, and showed it to him not long ago. He seemed surprised I still had it. how they could laugh at your misfortune while at the funeral of a friend, is beyond me. I think you should sit this crazy woman down and tell her in no uncertain terms, that she is destroying you. Invite the priest over to help if you have to, doesn't she believe in any act of Christian kindness? L
My W behavior started to get controlling when we bought our home in 1991. We were married in 1987. After my son was born, her behavior got worse. Neither my W or her family sees nothing wrong with their behavior so by me trying to sit her down and explain it to her would only set off a time bomb. The W and her family think believe she is a martyr to live with me.
My w keeps repeating the same story of "I have seen you through your surgeries, your unemployment, blah, blah, blah. Then when I finally had had enough, I explode because I have a passive/aggressive behavior. And then they act surprised that I do this. My W doesn't see that she is destroying me because she believes she is a saint and is perfect. When she really looses it, her favorite expression is "Jesus F%%%%in Christ." She will use this expression in front of my children. Thankfully, the children have started to swear yet. And to top it off, she is a hypocrite teaching CCD classes for 1st graders and instructing them on the 10 Commandments.
She believes in Christian kindness, but not to me. I would love to invite the priest over but that would do no good. We have seen a therapist on 3 separate occassions but she would go once or twice and that was it. The therapist said she can't handle constructive criticism.
My W and her family have this notion that they have to improve me. Quite frankly, I don't need to be improved by people who believe that they are perfect. I don't want to be anything like them because then I would give up my integrity. I love my kids, I do christian work for my church by playing Santa for the poor in my town and help deliver food and toys and reciting the poem "Night before Christmas. I help cook Thanksgiving meals for the poor in our parish who wouldn't have a Turkey dinners. I am beginning to like myself and accept myself even though my W and her family won't do that.
All I want is to be treated with common courtesy and I treat people the way I want to be treated. That is what I told my therapist. My therapist said that if my W was married to a black man, they would call me a N%%%%%. I accept people for who and what they are. Yet her Dad gets angry because he can't convince me the Gospel and Jesus is full of Crap. They get angry that I vote different then they do. Yet I am the one on anti-depressents and these people are just plain evil. Sometimes, I wish God would permit my W to suffer some major physical ailment in her body. Maybe that would wake her up.
I wish my wife was more like you. At least you have the compassion and are not proud enough to admit you have done anything wrong to your husband. That goes along way. Husbands want to be appreciated just like wives do. My wife gets angry at me because she said I am not thankful for what I have. I have 2 great kids and I live with an abusive witch. If I had been smart, I should have called the police and put a restraining order on her. When she gets angry at my son, who at age 11 is very defiant, she severely slaps him across the face, he cries, his face is red and then he goes upstairs. She apologizs but will repeat the process.
I have had to forgive my W and her family even though they won't apologize to me. My W will not forgive me because I got angry at her. I am still angry at them, but I know I have to fully forgive them because that is what Jesus would want.
Thanks for caring. You appear to be a loving person who wants to make her marriage work, like I do, and believe marriage is a committment. However, I can't save my marriage if my W doesn't change her behavior. I am not trying to change it because I have no control.
I will be leaving work shortly and I hope to hear from you again. Keep making your changes that you have to do. When my W continues to swear and yell at me, I completely ingnore her and ask Jesus to protect me and avenge me against the devil.
Hey Unhappy, I hope we can all figure some of this crap out together, hopefully some others on both side of this issue will jump in with some advice for all of us, and maybe one of the experts will jump in, too. I hope the rest of your day was pleasant. Rocco, I honestly can't understand how a whole family is the way they are. Have any of them ever seen how she treats you when you too are in your house? Have they ever seen her slap the 11 year old? I can't imagine slapping my 13 year old S. I used to get angry whe he was a little younger, when he acted up and would spank him, but slapping is crossing a line not to be crossed. At 11, she should mostly ignore the bad attitude of his, because he sometimes does stuff he doesn't mean to do, I'm sure. My S will seem very sullen at times, and I will let him be, he always comes out of it after awhile. You are right you do have to forgive them, Jesus said seventy times seven, which really means endless times. what do you mean your FIL is angry because he can't convince you that Jesus and the Gospel are crap? Is he an atheist? That would be hard to deal with. My FIL and MIL are believers somewhat, but my FIL dumped his fiance over fifty years ago, because she got saved and tried to influence him to change. And they can't stand for anyone to say things about their lack of going to church or anything like that, or criticizing my FIL because he makes his own wine. So, I tread carefully around them. I just thank God that we have brought our S up in the church where I was saved twenty years ago. He is talking about getting baptized, so I don't think FIL and MIL would ever criticize HIS religion and beliefs. My H has attended the same church as long as I have, but nothing has penetrated his heart, even though he knows God's word. I think your therapist says some hurtful things to you saying you would be called a n$%%^&. That surely ain't helping your frame of mind. Maybe the next time your W spews out the vile things at you, you could say I Love You, sweetheart, and walk away. Remember it heaps coals on their heads for you to meet hatred with love. It may not work, but it may shut her down momentarily. Next time she says I have seen you through your surgeries, unemployment, etc, tell her that in your vows it said in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer, so she ain't a saint for doing what God said to do anyway. I understand you sometimes wishing she were to suffer a physical ailment, so she could then understand, I have sometimes wished God would give my H a physical ailment or an illness, so I would have to take care of him, and could show him that I would devote all my hours to his well-being. He thinks I wouldn't care enough to do that, but I would. He has forgotten whenever he has been sick, I go out of my way to fix things to make him feel better, give him medicine and gatorade, and whatever he wants or needs. I guess that is part of his MLC, to forget these things and remember only the bad, but I am trying to show him the good is there and I am bringing it back. Unhappy, I hope that when you read all this from just today, you can help Rocco with some of the stuff that has helped you to cope, he sounds so dang sad. I guess we are all here to help each other. L
W family never saw her hit my son in the face. They have seen how cruel she is. I remember 3 years ago this past June we were celebrating my kids birthday since they are born 25 months apart. I had the job cooking on the grill. My wife gave me some vegtables (Zuchinni, onions, etc.) to put on the grill. The veggies were in a aluminan sealed bag, which I though quite odd. Anyway, when she gave me the bag, I open the bag and started to put them on the grill. My wife screamed and swore at me in front of her family and my mom, my brother and his family. Her mother consoled her. I told her this past August when we werre discussing our relationship (she brought it up, not me) that I didn't appreciate you belittling me in front of the family. I didn't know that you intended to want the veggies steamed. She said, I should have asked, once again, put the responsibility on me. I said that when my brother saw it, he said to me "That would never happen in my house." My wife said, well, your brother's wife is afraid of him. I said, no, because when I responded to my brother with "why that wouldn't happen in his house, he said, "Because we don't talk to each other that way, especially in front of other people." I said, I made a mistake, and my brother said, "that is no reason to loose control, its not like you put the kids on the grill, its just veggies." My mother was shocked too, but my W's mom consoled her poor baby.
I have been treated that way for years, be at their house or my house, it doesn't matter. When the Divinci Code came out, they would throw it in my face, and for almost 3 years, I said I really don't want to talk about this, please move on to something else, I am not interested, etc. One time I said please 7 times in one day. I told my W I am getting sick of this. They don't respect me enough to knock it off. Personally, I find the book, although fiction, offensive because the way it portrays Jesus. If I were to talk about something to someone and they told me I am not interested, I wouldn't bring up the subject again. But my FIL and BIL kept at it. Once again, this past June I was cooking on the grill for the families with the same people for my kids birthday's. I was on the deck with my brother talking about baseball and the Yankees because we are both fans. My BIL comes out with my other BIL on my W's side and he brings up with that smirk on his face, "Did I and my W go to the movies to see the Davinci Code?" Once again, I said, please, I don't want to talk about this. Then he tells me that I should have an open mind. That pissed me off because I don't like to be told from these people what I need or don't need so I just said No, I don't need to have an open mind. Then he starts up again. For about 10 minutes or so, both BIL's wouldn't stop although one of them did stop after a few minutes. But the other one kept at it. Finally, I said, "Look, I can make it personal too, and then its going to get ugly, and I will be happy to oblige you." Then he shut his mouth.
Later in the evening, it comes to my attention from my W that the BIL told his W (my wife's sister) that I was very rude and harsh to him (again, this is at my house), I hurt his feelings and ruined his day (poor baby, grow up). I told my wife how it all happened but she is telling me I owe him an apology. That is when I lost it. My feelings don't count and I am not allowed to have any. The BIL is just a wuss and can't stand that I stood up to him, after 3 years.
Then my W runs into the other BIL and asked who started it (she didn't believe me) and the other BIL said that they brought up the Divinci Code. So my W gets involved and calls her sister and tells her if I would apologize for my rude behavior (which I was not rude) would the BIL apologize for bringing it up. My SIL said no, that all the way home, he was cursing and swearing in front of their 4 and 2 year old.
During the week, my W is acusing me of causing a rift in the family and have a man to man talk. I said we are a man short. A few days later, she told me if I would apologize, maybe my BIL would forgive me (as if I gave a s%%%). I told her can I tell him how he made me feel? She said no and that her family expects me to apologize for my behavior.
The next day, I attempted suicide and was in the hospital for 5 days. I feel like a rape victim who is guilty. I was in the hospital on Father's Day too.
I graduated from college this May with honors with a BS in Accounting and invitations were sent out for my party 3 weeks prior to Father's Day. But two days after my kids birthday party (two weeks prior to Father's Day), I started calling my family and friends and cancelled the party because I was in no mood and why and I told them about my W behavior.
My sister, who was married to an alcholic said that when her boyfrind met my wife the first time, his comment was "Boy is she full of herself." I sometimes wonder what I did to deserve this.
I can't bring myself to tell her I love her and walk away because I don't love her. Quite frankly, I don't even like her. In the hospital they told me that I married someone like my grandmother (I grew up with my paternal grandparents because my family was poor) who used to physically, mentally and emotionally abuse me and my mother.
I know if I didn't suffer from such low self-esteem when I was growing up, I wouldn't have married her. But people like me are used to this because its what they are comfortable with and don't know of any other way.
I don't know what it would be like to have a woman who loves me for me. Even though they don't accept me, I am learing to accept myself and like myself too. I learned from Divorce Busting that we shouldn't continue to improve ourselves because we don't accept ourselves. We all make mistakes, we're human.
Thanks again for your concern and it means a lot to me.
Wow, the details are different and your case is more extreme, but there are many similarities to my home. My sons tell me my wife used to slap them until they got about 14 years old and told her they would call the police unless it stopped. I have also been belittled, but we don;t have much family or friend contact so not so much in front of other people. Aperson like this can take something that should be a life joy and totally ruin it. For example, when I got a big promotion and a raise, my wife did not even want to tell my kids about it, because they might get greedy about spending the money and she has always hated my job. She was very adamant saying 'promise me you won't tell them'. I have taken to just communicating with them directly myself and getting her out of the loop completely. Another example - when my Mother died a couple of years ago, my wife did not want to spend the money for her and the kids to come to the funeral. They all sat home, as I was 800 miles away and could not force her to bring them. I had travelled up previously to her bedside as she went into her final crisis, not knowing how it would turn out, and I remained there to help plan the funeral. Plus I was grieving, and in no shape to fight it with her. I had to make a lame excuse and work hard to patch it up with my Dad (my brother still has not forgiven it).
My wife is not one to swear (though she has in the past) - her techniques are more low key. Sighing, disapproval, critical comments - I once counted 30 critical comments in about 2 hours before I gave up and quit counting - the entire content of the communication is often just one after the other.
In dealing with it, Rocco, write it all down, like you are here. Give it to God, and ask Him to bear it for you. Then start to look for little positive steps you can take to assume a position of strength. Get into position where, emotionally, they cannot hurt you anymore. They you will have the clarity to leave or stay and work, whatever is right.
Thank you for listening. This is a great place to vent. Both of my kids are closer to my W than me. S is 11, D is 9 and they both have ADHD, but my Son has a more severe case.
When she hits him in the face again, I will tell her that I am not comfortable with hitting. Of course she will blame me because she takes no accountability for her actions. When she hits him again, Do you think I should call the Police? I have a small tape recorder that fits in my pocket, so do you think I should keep it handy when she has one of her temper tantrums?
I am very sorry about your Mother's passing. That is so sad. Worse, she didn't allow your children to say goodbye to their gradmother.
My w tried to pull that same crap with me about a month ago when my uncle died. It was my Mom's brother and my mom now has had to bury both her parents (her dad was killed by a hit & run driver while he was walking, and they never found the guy when my mom was 10), and all 5 of her siblings.
My w calls me at work and tells me she doesn't like going to funerals and reminded me of that because she had a bad experience when she was 16 when she went to her first funeral. She's OK with the mass, but doesn't want to view the body. Then she adds, I will drop you off at the funeral parlor and the kids and I will be at the church. That pissed me off.
Ayway, when I got home, I talked to my children about the funeral process and my wife butts in and says "They are not going to the viewing." I turned and said to her "You know, these are my kids too and they are old enough to make up their mind." I explained the viewing, and my son was adament that he wanted to play game cube that day (which was a Saturday). I told him that was not an option and we are going.
I first started to explain about viewing the body. I told them that the viewing is a way for people to say goodbye to their loved ones and out of respect for grandma. I told them that they did not have to approach the casket, they could sit in the back or even go outside if they chose to. My daughter asked some simple questions, such as what does the body look like, and I said its like they are asleep, much like when the cat died a few months ago. She asked if the body is ugly and I said no, it has makeup. She asked if she ever did it before and I said no. So she said, then I want to go. I said, OK, but remember, you can change your mind and not have to see your uncle, if you decide at the last minute you don't want to. I was very clear about that. I then explained that their will be a short mass, then their will be buried and then it will be a luncheon to celebrate that their loved one is in heaven.
The day of the funeral, I again told my kids they didn't have to approach the casket, and told them it was a closed casket since I was at the Wake the nite before. When we got to the funeral parlor, my daughter decided not to and told me she was afraid to so I told her that was ok and she didn't have to.
That evening my wife was angry at me because I forced my son to go. I said, I didn't force him to go, but out of respect, he had to go to show support for my mom. She said, no, you forced them to go to the viewing to approach the casket. I said, no, you were not listening then because I told them 3 times they didn't have to approach the casket and that they were old enough to go to the wake. I could tell she wanted an apology from me. The family still wants me to apologize to my BIL. In all honesty, I will not apologize and I would have rather been in the World Trade Center on 9/11 then apologize to these people.
I do pray, but its more then I can take right now. I know I need to be patient, but its not easy as you can imagine. I realize I married a 3 year old who still has temper tantrums.
Thanks for caring. I sometimes wonder if I should just divorce her and be done with it. My W and her family have crushed my self-esteem and I am working to get that back.
I still wish to save this marriage and I know changes need to be made, but I will not tolerate her bad behavior. I have been ignoring her evil comments but how much should I ignore. For example, one Saturday last month she said we need to do some yard work. I said, OK, I will be out in a minute as soon as I finish breakfast. She was outside trimming the hedges with my children. I said to her, I will start in the back yard and weed out the flower garden and the swingset area. Her response to me was "I don't give a F%%% what you do!" I ignored her. But should I ignore her, especially since her comments are in front of the kids." Thankfully, my kids don't swear, YET.
The next day, I am cleaning out the fridge while she went to pick up a couple of freinds of my kids for a play date. She calls me and tells me that they are eating lunch out and will be going to Rita's (its an ice cream parlor) and wanted to know if I wanted anything. I said sure, I thanked her and requested italian ice.
What's more weird about her behavior, she makes me dinner every night. I can't figure out what she is doing.
Hey VeryCrazy, I don'y put you in the same category as Rocco's wife or mine. There are emotional abuse issues in both his and my case. You have not related anything that equals emotional abuse in my book. Both Rocco and I could be very biased against women, but your case seems different to me. Your positive attitude and course of action speak well for you. And Rocco says the same, so treat that as 2 votes of confidence.
I think you and your husband promarily have communication diffuclties and a style or relating that has grown worse over time and provoked this crisis. And you want to do whatever you can to change and you admit fault. These things are typically missing in a hard core controlling abusive personality. You keep plugging, and you will get there. Just remember, try to give respect, and act as if you deserve respect. Mutual respect can go a long way toward healing.
I want to say that I am learning alot from both of you. I am learning that my actions, and my lack of appreciation, and my neglect, have really caused my H alot of pain, anger, resentment and contributed to his getting invloved with ow. I am seeing two extreme cases here, and know I will never get to that point, although I have been controlling, I have compassion for my H, and the pain I caused over the years. If there is any way that could truly convince him that I have changed and am continuing to change, I would do it. I am showing H more respect, and I feel that he is starting to respond in small ways. I don't know how much he is still contacting ow, but although I am very bitter about that, I don't mention ow to H, or try to give much thought to her. I am hoping as I drwa him closer to me and our family, he will pull away from her. Unhappy, I don't understand why your W wouldn't want the kids to know about your raise and promotion. That is something that they should know, as it will make them proud of their daddy, and kids are naturally a little greedy anyway. But so what, they should get benefit from you making more money. Our S knows when income tax time is and knows we get alot of money back, so of course he wants something, and he as part of the family gets it. Kids shouldn't have to be kept out of stuff like that. To me it sounds like she was the greedy one who wanted the extra money to maybe spend as she saw fit. I want my H's raise to go towards getting us out of credit card debt. My H said I kept our S away from his parents over the years, but we also have tons of pictures of him there with them. I know when he was a baby, I had a hard time leaving him with anybody, because it took eight years to have him, and I guess I held on very tightly. My H always said I was a great mother, though. I have been trying to make up as much as I can, and suggest times for S to spend lots of time with them. MIL and FIL are actually recognizing the changes in me and commented to H about them, and said they like the new me. I have not tried to keep S from experiencing funerals or visitations, even though I was traumatized at a young age by one. We just explained like you did about what would happen, and that S didn't have to go up to view the person. He actually chose to go up each time to see the person! I am wondering what you could differently to deal with your W, Unhappy, maybe when she starts to criticize or complain, you could tell her that you would like to hear her solutions to the problem. Maybe there is some way to take the wind out of her sails. I am sorry about your mother, that's really tough to lose a mother, especially when their is no support from your W. Rocco, I think you should try to do more to keep the kids out of her way when she is in a foul mood, maybe even sit them down for a talk about what mommy is going through, and tell them to come to you when they sense a bad mood coming on. About the Da Vinci code, I am not Catholic, but I still find that whole thing offensive, too. You don't tell people that their Christ did those things, when we know he never married or had a child. But, I will say one thing, your reaction to it is all wrong. don't go on the defensive when they attack you on these matters. When they say have you gone to see the da vinci code, just smile and say I don't care for fairytales. And tell your W you owe nobody apologies for anything, her family and extended family needs to get a life and stop trying to control yours. And tell her when she tries to demand apologies from you for them, tell her that you were stating your mind and will not back down from what you believe. Congrats on your degree, and you obviously have a lot of strength somewhere to get through school. So, put some of it to use to stop being put on the defensive with them. Find new ways to answer, because they already know how to get a rise out of you, and they know exactly how you will answer each and every time. Stop it, because Jesus doesn't need to be defended from people who know better. They know what they are doing is wrong, but can't seem to stop. So, give them reactions that show you are not concerned about what they say, because in the end they will PAY for what they are doing in this world. I can see you have a little sarcasm in you, because you said you were a man short in a man to man talk with BIL. so, put some of that wit to use and plan it out if you have to, and see if they don't know what hit 'em. Try it tonight and tell us what happened. I am just saying from a female perspective what would work with me from my H. I think a little tough love for me is sometimes warranted from him. Good Luck to us all! L
Whoa, UnhappyInAz, VeryCrazy has given me support that I need to hear. It speaks well of you too that we are not biased against women, although we could be. I'll tell you one thing, I wouldn't trust a women enough to remarry. Been down that road once.
I left a message with my divorce attorney. I haven't filed for divorce yet, but in speaking to, I guess his secretary, she told me that I have to stand up for my son if my W has one of her temper tantrums and slaps him hard in the face, enough to make his face red. My attorney just called me back and said for me to contact the police.
VeryCrazy,
Based on UnappyInAz, please provide us what emotional abuse your H has committed against you so we can support you too. I also agree with him that you are making the right steps to repair your relationship with your H and mutual respect is very necessary in a marriage. It appears that your situation is not as difficult as ours and looks to be salvagable. I don't think my marriage can be saved, unless God performed a bigger miracle then the parting of the Red Sea. For my marriage to work, my W has to really be sorry for her behavior and even then, it will take a long time to heal because I wouldn't trust her. Secondly, her family needs to mind their own F%%%%in business. Thirdly, my W needs to seek medical attention for her issues that have nothing to do with me. She is very insecure, mostly about her weight WHICH I HAVE NEVER BROUGHT UP, EVER. However, I am angry enough to call her a FAT, DISGUSTING BITCH if she continues to treat me like a piece of S%%%. I know that is against Divorce Busting, so I hope I don't do that, and keep my integrity. Lastly, she needs to go to Confession to a Priest. That will make me start to believe that she is really sorry.
