Wel there is nothing loving about control, though sometimes it is rationalized as 'I am only trying to do what is best for them'. Ous basis as people who are loved is not in those other people who love us, it is that God loves us. People will always disappoint.
My friend and I stopped short of such talk about futures together, etc. We try to support each other's relationships. Obviously I am married and trying to work on it. She can't seem to find the one she wants, though.
I have not been able to really make other inroads yet. I need to do the counseling and try to get her involved. I really don't see myself as being controlled anymore, and I don't give her permission to hurt me the way I felt hurt for so long. Our conversations are still almost always about her, what she sees as wrong, what she thinks I need to change, how unhappy she is, etc.
