One thing I can say is that your kids may seem like they are ok, but they won't be if you leave, even if they are 17 and 19. My S is 13, and I know it would destroy the image he had of his F. Fathers don't quit. Mothers don't quit. We will get back from our kids what we put into them, and our mistakes that we fix, when we forgive others, they will see that things can be worked out, and they will have a chance at good M's in the future. Otherwise they may be doomed to repeat history. Now who wants that? L
