Your husband sound like he has given up, or maybe never wanted a part of the decisions. Have you looked at your verbal communication style - how you come across with the things you say? Do you say things that are belittling, like 'you won't be allowed to do that anymore'? Do you tend to fight for your ground when things are not going the way you think they should? Is it 'your way or the highway'. If there are these negative communications it can silently say 'you are less than me' when you might be actively saying you want hhim to step up. Graciousness - being willing to admit your own faults, willing to admit when you were wrong, can go a long way. This is totally missing in my wife, who tends to come across as if she is always right, while I am always at fault. Are you critical of big or little things? What is the content of your communication - affirmation, criticism? Being critical all the time also tends to beat a man down, and he will blame himself, and feel he needs to give in on everything to 'keep the peace'. Has there ever been a big decision you disagreed on? Did it go your way or his. If it wane his way, did you put it behind you or keep revisiting it afterward?
