Quote: MY attitude and MY level of desire could be to blame for much of our strain in the bedroom.
Not to put "blame" but I can totally relate to this. And from a woman's perspective I can tell you that we (at least I know I do and I suspect other women do too) crave being desired by our spouses. When my H expresses desire for me then I'm like warm putty. Not feeling desired by him was really depressing over time.
I even remember discussing this. There were many long periods of time where neither of us felt very desired by the other. I think expressing it is very important. I've also learned as a wife who is not always so aggressive, I need to try and inspire that sometimes too.
You really did make an important observation! Good for you!!!!
Lots of communication, as well as some arguements and fighting, is healthy. Balance it out with friendship and a great SL and you have a good relationship!
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