You forcefully (and I mean that in the nicest way) make me have to point out that much like when the "bad times" were upon me and all my posts were negative as hell, these relative "good times" cause me to gloss over the bad stuff more and more, and I assure you that there are still bad times but I don't sweat that as much as I used to.
For example. The day in question we had a pretty big blow out over some miscommunication that pretty much had us not talking for a few hours...
Then, the very next day after we ML (which, Mama, I hate to say it, is almost every other day these days, sometimes every day ) I was EXPECTING to go do something fun with the kids since I had worked 6 days and wanted to have some fun. Not unreasonable by any stretch, but it's how we both behaved that sucked. It became clear that the day was not going according to plan and we'd have to put the plans on hold. Instead of "rolling with it" I got in a mood, just like old times instead of just directly saying "Honey, I am just dissapointed, that's all" and instead of understanding it (even when I DID say that), she went at me about it saying how I am still the same as I was before. THAT pissed me off and we fought a bit but in the end, Mama...
Yes, right now, and that's all I can focus on, right now I do have a wonderful marriage because in it's context we can fight, ML, talk, share and parent, which is all I should have ever asked for. All the other crap needs to be left at the front door, which for the most part it is.
Thanks for the support but don't think my work is anywhere near done. I am still fighting for sure, only now it's to stay moving forward instead of just keeping up.
