I write what comes to mind in response to what I read. I don't know it all, not even close. I just hope I can make you think as much as my "mentors" in DB made me thing when this whole thing started for me almost a year ago.
I am glad you are making progress with your anger issues. I struggle with that daily, even now when things could not be better. It's a VERY hard pattern to break and it has SO much more to do with your insides than with whatever the sitch is on the outside.