Moving forward...GH Saga moves to Piecicing!

[Tiara Boy (CM)]

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The problem with me was that I always was SO afraid my W would reject me, laugh at me, not take me seriously when I said/did certain things because I was CONVINCED that she didn't see ME as a sexual person at all.

Just like your W, my W was sure I wasn't turned on by her. She has body issues to begin with and projected them onto me, thinking that I must not be attracted to her because of how things were (not much sex, kissing, intimacy in general). I only found all this out after things turned the corner. Before that, I simply thought she just didn't like sex and was so beaten down by what I perceived as her rejecting me all the time (come to find out you actually have to TRY to do something before you can be rejected). Nothing could be farther from the truth.


Good Lord. This applies to me so much. She has even asked me if I could see why others would find her attractive after all this has happened. W has told me that she has "body image" issues and that I didn't know how to be intimate.

I did not have the ability to express myself to her without that fear of rejection. And part of her body image issues did start to rub off on me and I began thinking that I wasn't attractive to her. When she left she told me that we didn't have any sexual chemistry and we never had that chemistry. And, I hate to say that I believe that she has always equated sex with love and the sense of being needed.

I have no idea where I'm going with this b/c I am blown away right now by what you have posted. I have viewed my issues in the past R w/ my W and I was seeing my side in part of it. Now this has opened up a whole new can of worms for me and lets me know I have more work to do on me.....for my W or whomever.

Thank you.