Hey GH, it addresses a lot of it for me, I could relate to most of what you are saying. Finding the right time may be the issue for me. I don't know if you read my post in the "Sexual Issues" forum or not, but it explains a lot of what I am trying to deal with. My W has actually told me at this point that it is the only reason that we are not reconciled yet. She doesnt feel that passion from me and know if she ever will be able to.
I know that I have it inside of me, my god every time I see her I know it to be true. I just have never been able to express it to her and have struggled over the years with maternal issues with my wife. I guess I am trying to figure out most importantly how to express top her at this point in our sitch that I can be that passionate man, that she does not turn me off, that I want her more than anything and am willing to try and figure all of it out. I started seeing a sex therapist 2 weeks ago to address my issues with our intimacy, she does not want to go. So how do you pursue the corrective action alone?
Bottom line, I know that my wife loves me, I know that I love her, I also know that the intamacy issue has to be dealt with and am struggling desperately to know how to show her that I am ready to be intimate with her on every level and can be different than I was before. I don't know how to get her past her struggles with how I made her feel during our marriage. She said to me that for the past few years she fealt like her H (me) was disgusted by her. I of course have assured her that it was anything but, and told her that the only way to make it clear to her would be to show her when she is ready. I just am stuck and don't know what to say or do to get it through to her, any suggestion or advice there?
