While it's probably a bit true that as my sitch gets better, I have less motivation to post, it's more true to say that my schedule and work issues are more to blame. I have gone through periods of time where I have posted less for the same reasons, this time is not much different.
I have NO intention of leaving this place anytime soon so don't think I am gone just because days go by without me posting a whole lot.
I hate to set myself up as some kind of expert, because God knows I am not, but if there is something you want me to look at, or a person you think might benefit from whatever help I can offer, please post it here and I will do what I can. I do check in now and then even if I am not posting.
Like I said, I am not going anywhere. I feel a tremendous sense of debt to everyone here, and the site in general for helping to save my marriage.
Mama, I think you are right. I think in the sense that this site portrays it, my divorce has been busted. I just want to refrain from putting it that way because more than anything, I am guarding against complacency and I guess I am still using the threat of my marriage ending as motivation.
I THINK I can truly say that the threat is not really there anymore unless there are forces at work I don't know about.
The sex life is better...WAY better now than ever before, the communication is better, even the fighting is better because I have learned not to take everything personally.
From my W's perspective, she is doing something she's never done much before, and that is thanking me for things I do around the house and in general. She is expressing love in my secondary language of "words of affirmation" and really it's something I never talked much to her about. She just started doing it. Maybe she IS paying attention after all, lol.
Thank you again and when work lets up, and the Halloween weekend/week is done, expect me around more.
