Well, I THOUGHT I posted this earlier but I guess I didn't.
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OT, you were 100% right. Instead of waiting until the weekend, I decided to initiate last night. She was tired and acting like she just wanted to go to sleep. It was late (Midnight) and we both had to get up at around 6:00am but WTH, I went for it and all she asked me was if I could go in to work late. When I said "YES" she said "YES" and the rest is history.
OT, thank you for all the advice in this area. I didn't really get it, or if I did, I couldn't find a way to actually DO it until now but I always knew I would find a way when the time was right and now it is.
She clearly likes me to take charge of this particular aspect of our R and in the past I guess I resented this because I thought she didn't love me as much if she didn't initiate. Now I am more self-assured and am perfectly happy taking the risks I need to take (rejection mainly) to get what I (and as it turns out, SHE) want. Each time we have intimate moments, either in the bedroom or out, she shares a little more, and so do I. We've NEVER done this before. Like I said, we never talked about our R at all before all this, let alone the "hard" stuff.
I think things are better now than they ever were in terms of intimacy and romance. She is helping in that respect too which is a great thing.
I think we are starting to realize that there may not be any one area we need to work on in our marriage but the simple fact that BOTH of us now understand there needs to be work done daily is a HUGE deal.
Thanks again for all your support. I really think it's paid off big time.
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