Thanks OT. Yea, one of the new things I am doing is talking a LOT more. Not that sophomoric crap I used to spew. She really seems to like this.
As for the increase in frequency, even in the good times, the OLD times, we never did it that often. I wanted to but she never did. Maybe it was just something specific about then and maybe that's changed now.
I will have to talk to her about that in case my "actions" don't result in an increase in frequency.
I think the biggest problem is that we are both so tired at the end of the day and that's really the only time we have available. The two nights it's happened recently were nights where the day was less stressful and we were not so tired.
I think as we move forward, I keep up the "new me" stuff, she keeps being more open to me, and our issues get worked out, things will progress in this area.
I am NOT going to rest on this. I am getting a MUCH better idea of what makes my W tick and I plan to use every ounce of knowledge I get to help make my sitch better. The good news is that I think she is too.
