CC, you're right and so is OT. I knew someone would say that at some point. Actually OT has said it to me before.
Anyway, I guess I just consider it totally obvious what my W's problems are. I talk about them all the time. I don't think I have to come here and blame her for our problems, nor do I excuse her from them. I just want to set the record straight.
Like I think I have recounted a number of times (or some version of this), my W, after being with me for a few years encouraged me to quit my job. I asked her why. She said it was because I was SO miserable at my job and everyone there was so mean. I was shocked. This was not the truth. Why would she think that!
Well, she would think that because I always told her all the bad stuff and never the vastly overwhelming good stuff. It wasn't even that I was actually miserable in life, or at my job, it was just that the things I told her made it seem that way. I learned right then to try to make sure to communicate the good with the bad and from that point on, she had a much clearer picture of my work expeirence.
That is what I try to do here. I feel like I complain so much about my W that I should make sure to tell the good with the bad but I know how that comes off, and you're right, I do get defensive from time to time.
I DO take all of what is said about her to heart and I DO try to hold her accountable for her part in all this. Like I said, I just think it's obvious that she's to blame for a lot so...
Sorry. I will try to just take things without getting defensive.
