Hey, I think I forgot to add one VERY important thing that my W said to me on Saturday during our talk.
At one point when we were talking about us and less about the kids she looked at me and said "We have our issues but one thing you don't ever have to worry about again is some other person being involved. I know what I have now. I have seen what the world has to offer. I can see now how good a husband and father you are. Yes, I'll mention his name [om] (she actually used his name for the first time in a LONG time) proved to me how bad things can be and how good things really are for me. I get that."
I responded by thanking her sincerely for saying that. I went on telling her that while I thought it was GREAT that she realizes that things can be good with us, I wanted to make sure she doesn't think it stops there. I want to make things GREAT between us and that means that we never stop talking, growing and learning about each other.
I think for the first time, maybe since all this started, I used the concept of the "old" marriage versus the "new" marriage and how I wanted our new marriage to really and truly be evolved.
She said she wanted that too but there were still her "issues" to deal with but even they were getting better as all this gets sorted out.
Anyway, I thought I would journal that bit of forgotten news. It was a VERY important thing for her to say because she's not really said that before.
