Wow,, OT gives some fabulous advice...
I learn so much from reading these threads everyday.
GH.. you deserve an award.... my h goes to work and comes home.. I do everything else. It is like Leave it to Beaver in my house,, I like to joke and say,, I am Jenniffer Lopez,and June Cleaver all rolled into one..LMAO and I am a great cook too.. well if I do not flatter myself who else will? LOL

My God if my H came home once and did everything you did I would be IN AWE for WEEKS!
The day after we reconciled and I took the kids to swim at my cousins pond,( which in the past when he stayed home he would not like for me to leave him alone) he stayed home and he cleaned the kitchen for me I just about melted....he had me eating out of the palm of his hand.

I hope that in time you and your wife can get thru her insecurities of staying home alone etc.. cause from all I read about you, you are really and truly stepping up to the plate and doing a great job as not only a Husband but a Father as well... feel proud of what you are doing and take it one day at a time...