Thanks all for your input. It's really given me a lot to think about.
Quote: P.S. I wrote that because her inability to enjoy her free time during the day at home is likely a BIG source of this problem in general. Have you ever tried to spend the day out doing whatever because you can't go home (for whatever reason)? I can only imagine that doing this everyday is NOT particularly fun, relaxing, or freeing, but rather some kind of private hell.
Make no mistake about it OT, THIS is the major source of my W's problems. She has anxiety/panic/depression or some combo of those and refuses to get any help for any of it. Sure, it's not debilitating but it is damn near so and it's making our reconciliation go much slower than otherwise, IMHO.
I don't have much time but I do have a lot more to respond to.
