Substitute "H" for "W" in that 1-10 list I gave you and give it to W to read.
This whole time, I was under the impression that you used to be gone 5-6 nights a week and had cut back to 2-3 nights a week. You must have been pretty frustrated reading my post, lol.
It seems YOU are the one that needs some free alone adult time without needing to have an excuse to get it (like work). Maybe YOU would like a free night or two in the house. Criminy.
I'd put this on your list sooner rather than later. The resentment DOES and WILL CONTINUE to creep into all sorts of areas (you know this). This is another thing that you need to create a boundary about.
The idea about each of you having one or two nights a week off might still work. (Of course, yours shouldn't all be eaten up by work.)
BTW, it occurs to me that all that free time your W has may very well not FEEL free to her, in which case it really doesn't do that much good. She may feel that she should be doing all sorts of things during the day that she isn't getting done. Same thing at night when you are home, she may not FEEL free any of that time, perhaps because she feels guilty about not sharing the load more reasonably.
(Think about a day that turns into a week that you fritter away at work when you have something important you should be doing. It doesn't FEEL like you had a week off and a lot of free time. If anything, at the end of it you feel like you have even less time.)
Anyway, time to take care of you some. Tackle it as a shared problem (which it is) -- both of you need more guilt-free alone/adult time that isn't eaten up by obligations.
Also, time to stop enabling your wife's disfunctional life. She needs to get help. What is going on with that?
