Moving forward...GH Saga moves to Piecicing!

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well, holding a cup of yogurt but it's almost the same

I can understand your W's reaction, I always had the same prob w/my H and it was a major source of fights, me actively defending our s8 and telling H how wrong and overly agreesive he was with the boy, H never backed down.

During C he said the exact same thing you did " I am only doing what I know to do" His father was a psycho who cared for no one but himself and was verbally and physically abusive to his mom, sister and him, so he really didnt' have a good father figure.

It helped so much when the C told him "remember, you have to be a gentle giant, your son's life is in your hands, you have the power to do anything you want w/him and he'd have no choice, he is totally dependent on you. When you are rough w/him you are telling him ' you are a bad boy", and you don't want that do you? Remember that you have all the power, he has none, be always a gentle giant" To me he advise to not jump to conclusions and bite my tongue when I thought he was being too agresive and wait 'til we were along to confront him, not to shoot him down but to come up w/a plan on how we'd handle s8's misbehaviors.

I give my H credit for controlling himself more and for correcting my son in a better way.

I'm glad you guys are communicated much better! As for the sitter, go ahead and plan something to do together and come hell or fire find a sitter to go, sometimes our good intentions ("i'll find a sitter eventually") go nowhere, there's bound to be someone out there! Anyways, glad you guys got things out in the open.