Everyone approaches things a little differently and different paths will lead to happiness for different people.
That said...DB doesn't lead you into your head, it leads you into action....the idea is that you can keep analyzing the reasons you're in a certain place in your relationship, but that doesn't necessarily lead you to the actions that will work for you.
But you don't have to wait to understand it before you take action. In fact you won't anyway....you will be doing something....but if you always do what you've always done, you'll most likely get the response you've always gotten.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001