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I feel like you want to shove this method down my throat, get me to see it as you do, claim it to be, by far, the best method found so far. That attitude alone prompts me to rebel, for I find it personally insulting.



Let me follow up on my question to you. Your statement above is actually a good example in that I do not think you are being honest. There is nothing in anything I have said that makes the claim you state. How you say you feel is only your interpretation. Why?



What led me to my statement was in you saying this:

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The reason I am pressing this attachment idea is that I truly think it can help others on this board. It can be like an enhancer, a turbo boost to other methods.



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You may feel I am pushing it down your throat, I do not.



The word 'press' to me is very similiar to push.

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But why you feel the need to rebel is unclear.



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I feel like you want to shove this method down my throat, get me to see it as you do, claim it to be, by far, the best method found so far. That attitude alone prompts me to rebel, for I find it personally insulting.





I have not rebelled, and I have not gotten pissed, even though I may initially feel the urge to do so. Remember that I also said:

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I resist, however, because I don't think you mean to insult me, nor anyone else here.



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That feeling comes from somewhere within you, and is the very point of why attachment theory is so important and powerful, why soothing your partner is so important.



I didn't need you to soothe me nor to validate me, but thank you for the offer. I resisted all on my own. I see that you have a POV, and have found a way that is really working for you. Though we may not be taking the same road, and may argue over semantics... to me, doing so is a waste of time... and that is my very point.

And I so very much appreciate your willingness to affirm me. Thank you. Seriously. We didn't even argue here. How wonderful are we?

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BTW, I have no Idea what "mu" is.



I'll explain later because I have to run, unless Hairdog is lurking and would do me the honor of explaining it for me.

Corri