I feel like you want to shove this method down my throat, get me to see it as you do, claim it to be, by far, the best method found so far. That attitude alone prompts me to rebel, for I find it personally insulting.
Let me follow up on my question to you. Your statement above is actually a good example in that I do not think you are being honest. There is nothing in anything I have said that makes the claim you state. How you say you feel is only your interpretation. Why?
I think there is strong value to attachment theory. You may not. You may feel I am pushing it down your throat, I do not. (Actually, you are the only one responding in detail to my posts.) But why you feel the need to rebel is unclear. I think it is because you feel I am not validating your POV, that I am one-upping you somehow, and that is what bothers you. Rather than respond with those true feelings, you state that you feel insulted and subtly go on the attack. Is that anywhere close to accurate?
This is not a differentiation issue, it is not an enmeshment issue, it is not even a respect issue (I have not said anything disrespectful to you). So what is it? The only thing I can see is that you feel I am not acknowledging you. That feeling comes from somewhere within you, and is the very point of why attachment theory is so important and powerful, why soothing your partner is so important.
Let me say this for the record. I have some differences with you in my approach to handling relationships and how I think those who are stuck should proceed. But I am also male, you are female. We will see things differently for that reason alone. Yet in spite of this handicap you have I still highly respect your insight and POV and are in awe of the incredible trauma you have overcome in your past to arrive at such a healthy and balanced place that you are now.
That is an honest, heartfelt statement. And it affirms you. I hope it makes you feel better too.
BTW, I have no Idea what "mu" is. Is that some type of heifer?
