Cobra, I'm troubled by the picture of a successful R as a carefully navigated high wire act over a moat full of alligators.

Surely this
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There is a narrow window of opportunity and you must walk a very thin line. Too far in either direction and you wind up in D court.

is not literally true? In fact, people and relationships seem to be able to tolerate, function, forgive, and get on with things under a very wide range of circumstances and conditions.