Adult Attachment Disorder

[LostGal]

CAC4 is not alone in life! His long lost twin is MyH. Who, reluctantly took the attachment quiz at my prodding and scored--

According to attachment theory and research, there are two fundamental ways in which people differ from one another in the way they think about relationships. First, some people are more anxious than others. People who are high in attachment-related anxiety tend to worry about whether their partners really love them and often fear rejection. People low on this dimension are much less worried about such matters. Second, some people are more avoidant that others. People who are high in attachment-related avoidance are less comfortable depending on others and opening up to others.

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 3.50.... Your attachment-related avoidance score is 3.94....

As you can see in this graph, the two dimensions of anxiety and avoidance can be combined to create interesting combinations of attachment styles. For example people who are low in both attachment-related anxiety and avoidance are generally considered secure because they don't typically worry about whether their partner's are going to reject them and they are comfortable being emotionally close to others.
Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure quadrant . Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders.

I'm going to add a bit to this for "communication" style. I fail to recognise his openly emotional forthright attachment style. Gestures of love differ from gestures of kindness. Because the approx 3.5 and 4.0 are so very close to the Dismissive line on the graph I tend to think that CAC4 and MyH are extremely close. (Showing my bias here)

To get back to Cobra and CAC4, I'm very interested and applaud CAC4 for coming forth in an attempt to learn. I'm very interested and am learning a great deal from Cobra and others in their counsel.

Thanks