I had some other thoughts I wanted to mention, but this dang job just gets in the way… If the test is anywhere correct in identifying your attachment style as dismissive, then you should be an emotional avoider.
oh, yeah. I think so. I'm like a freakin' matador. "OLE!!"
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The way I see it, this means your wife MUST be the pursuer. I may be wrong, but I don’t see how two avoiders could ever get together. As soon as a major intimacy issue arises, I would think two avoiders would rather walk away than face the issues. So they would never get past the dating phase. That’s why I think your wife may be the pursuer.
maybe. I dont' know what any of that means.
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You say she has outbursts when you try to communicate. Maybe she is wanting to hear something from you in her language, but doesn’t hear it, so she gets angry. The question is what does she want/need to hear from you and is this why she gets mad? I get the impression you do not really know the answer either. Have you talked to her about this?
no, I don't know the answer. and yes, we have discussed it.
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Also, since I assume she is the one pursuing you, Dr. Laura would not work for you. I suspect your wife already feels like she tries too hard and asking her to accommodate you even more will not go over well. Does she comment about this?
well...like I said in my other post, she said she'd read it. I'm not really asking to be "accommodated", I don't think. she wants me to talk...she needs to find a way to let me.
