And awesome to hear from people in other quadrants. I'm in the secure quadrant Once i finished the est I was thinking about how someone in the secure quadrant would never see a separation coming. Like I didn't. They're so secure in their love, they never doubt the other person's love and then... WHAMO!!! In our case, changes would have to be made in how we realize that the insecure person needs more reassurance than we do. Again, not manipulation, but if I wanted to save the marriage, I would want make those changes to myself because I love my S, to make my S feel less insecure.
Or do you think that's even possible?
If these are FOO issues, they wont change, right? I'll always be secure. Even feeling betrayed right now, I know I'll be completely secure of love in my next R. I'm just wired that way. And an insecure/anxious person will always feel anxious and doubt my love? Wow.
May it be eternal while it lasts.
My sitch
Me: 36
H:34
M: 5 years
Bomb: 03/14/06
