You just made me realize my wife is from a Narcissistic Family big time and may be the cause of alot of my marriage issues. Poor parenting skills, overweight, and super sensative about everything.
Her dad has lives on the idea that only the son matters and her mom is a i don't matter person.
He forgets her birthday every year and calls to ask her what it is, because he knows its close to his.
They flew in to see our son after he was born, in town 5 days saw us/her 3 days.
Her brother can do no wrong and sees him alot. We have communication about once every 6 months or when he needs something.

Now is how do you discuss something like this to a super sensitive person?