The adult attachment stuff is interesting. Your research is commendable. Have you mentioned your findings to your W?
If you could have the ideal R with your W, what would it look like? Do you want to do what it would take to have that R?
Schnarch wrote a 400+ page book. Some of it had to do with forcing a crucible. The bulk of the book had to do with a high level of self improvement/management of emotions as well as the capability to allow others do what they will in response to those changes. Schnarch recommends that readers follow the book as written, starting with inner work and ending up with dealing with mortality, with crucibles falling somewhere in the middle.
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
