Feel free to look up my story on here...I've kept a pretty good journal of everything....but if you would prefer feel free to e-mail me. anitam@nordam.com I'll apologize up front if I don't respond quickly...e-mails often get caught in our SPAM filter if they are from hotmail/yahoo/earthlink etc.
To make a long story short though My H and I have been together close to 5 years now, married 3.5. He has NEVER exhibited a high SD, which was foreign to me...I had never experienced that in my life. I'd never in fact had to ask for sex before much less feel snubbed for it. On our 1st anniversary I put my foot down and insisted on MC. We went, and wasted our time for well over a year....because my H wasn't being honest with me or our C's (he also wouldn't say anything, so it's no surprise your H won't talk). He also continued to ignore sex and my requests for it. My instincts finally started screaming at me loud enough that I finally succumbed and installed a keylogger on our home computer. I sure felt guilty about it too. I felt sneaky, but my instincts were telling me that things just weren't adding up. Less than 10 hrs after I installed the keylogger I had an answer....he had a profile on Adult Friend Finders and had been communicating with women on it, viewing their photos/webcams and e-mail/chatting with them....all the while ignoring me and makign me feel like "I" was pressuring him. The reality was....he was turning elsewhere.
We are NOW doing much better because I confronted him about this....and since then we have determined my H has an issue with Whore/Madonna complex. We are now finding ways to work with this issue...and around it. Suffice it to say, we are doing better now that his "secret" is out.
