hey hon, sorry it's being rough for you lately, chin up gal)))) hope you get used to the new job.
Quote: I need for him to make the effort to communicate with me ... things like our finances, plans and goals, etc
If he has a failure to discuss plans, he prob thinks all is ok and that he is making the rigth decisions. Try and bring things up yourself without waiting for him to do it, make things happen. My H has this thing were after I tell him something he'll stay quiet, not because he's mad or ignoring me, but because he doesn't think he has to say anything to signal me he's heard me. This lack of acknowloging me drove me bananas, we brought it up to the C and the C told me that that's the way my H was, I could get mad and fume but that it wasn't going to change, so it was up to me to choose how to take it. On top of that my H is ADHD so he forgets half the things you tell him, so it's a lost battle to be mad and expect him to remember things.
So what I'm saying is choose your battles, and if something bothers you bring it up instead of fuming and waiting for your H to say something. The thing about the insurance, I guess you couldn't have know, but if you had any qualms about the paperwork he prob had a chance to change whatever you disagree with. Work w/him, give him the benefit of the doubt.
About the SL and the lack of him initiating, I 'm sort of still there, though I know my H does come half dead from training. For the past months I took up upon myself to initiate most times. When I brought up this fact to him he thought it shouldn't matter who initiates, and not until I explained him how it made me feel (not wanted) did he see why it bothered me.
Hope you feel better hon!
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
