The darkness does not endure!

[BeingMe]

Hi all, and thanks for your prayers, and thoughts.

My H did phone this man several times, and told him exactly what he thought of him. Also, confronted him, but this guy is holding onto our D19 like glue. Initially, we didn't know what his age was. He dresses like a teen, although we thought he looked older then they were saying, plus we didn't know about his runaway wife and two daughters until much later (not to mention a whole lot of other, unsavoury facts). A lot was not told to us, by our niece, because she didn't want to betray our D19's trust (we are pretty angry about that), and by the time we did know more, it was too late. At this point, we are just glad that she's with her friend's parents (really good family, that we trust), and they are going to get her onto the flight to Florida where she will spend some time with my BIL, and then, they will drive her up to my D26. I have my reservations about whether our D19 will actually get on the plane.

Unfortunately, our family lives all over the continent (if not all over the world), so it's hard to get together at any time. We live on an island on the westcoast of Canada, about 12 hours from our D19 and her twin brother, who is hoping to come home for a couple of months, thousands of miles from our D26, and my BIL (H's B). I guess our S19 feels we need him right now, but mostly our D14 does. He has been very supportive, and all this has affected him the most, because his sister, who he was always close to, won't speak to him anymore (guilt, maybe, or just that person trying to separate her from even her twin brother). We didn't even know he existed just a short 9 months ago, when our D19 was innocent, didn't smoke or drink, went to church (although, I believe she still does go, often) was truthful and eager to plan for her future career. This kind of person will never allow her to earn a living that will give her personal power to leave him. He has broken her down emotionally, physically, and psychologically. I just hope we have gotten to her in time, when she still has some sense still left inside of her. (We have tried several times already to get her away from him, i.e. once my H drove to her city, collected her, drove back home with all her stuff. She was home one day, and took a suitcase of clothes, caught the Greyhound and went back to that loser. Her things are still here. So, we are pessimistically hopeful that she gets on that plane tomorrow, without him, and does go to Florida for a time, to think, and reflect on her future. That's all we can hope for now, because she does have her own free agency, and is regarded an adult in Canada, so we have no rights as her parents.)

We have also contacted the police, to find out what we can do, but they can do nothing unless she reports the abuse. So, our hands are tied on that. It is so frustrating! We cannot even check on whether he has a criminal record, or if he really is divorced, because of the privacy laws here in Canada. My H was also warned that if he in any way physically touched this guy, and was reported, than my H would be the one who would be in trouble. We were thinking of bringing a civil suit against him, for defamation of character.

I will continue to pray for my D19, and hope that her mind is open to letting this person go, and moving on with her life.

Thanks again, for all your concern. I really appreciate it.