Today, I have been thinking about what makes a good marriage. There are probably many aspects that are personal to each marriage, but there must be some similarities or commonalities that one can use to incorporate into our own marriages. Dr. Phil give the following points, which I think are so pertinent, and should be considered when trying to piece together our marriages:
A Good Marriage
After being happily married for 28 years, Dr. Phil shares some of his thoughts about what makes a marriage work.
# The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built on a solid underlying friendship and meets the needs of the two people involved.
# You get what you give. When you give better, you get better.
# If you put your relationship in a win/lose situation, it will be a lose/lose situation.
# Forget whether you're right or wrong. The question is: Is what you're doing working or not working?
# There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way that works. But recognize when it's not working and be honest when it needs fixing.
# Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. Embrace the change and know that it takes work.
# You don't fix things by fixing your partner.
# Intimacy is so important because it is when we let someone else enter our private world.
# You don't necessarily solve problems. You learn how to manage them.
# Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
