Soreheart - the pain does go away to a large extent, and life goes on, despite our unhappiness at the choices our spouses make. My H had an EA, so maybe not as painful as a PA. Just take a deep breath, clear your head, and think things out logically, and dispassionately. One has to, firstly, realise that our spouses are human, and are prone to mistakes, just as we are. We can choose to work with them to overcome these mistakes, or choose to wallow in self-pity, and recriminations. DB'ing is about working on ourselves, GAL, detaching emotionally from the pain, and choosing to love despite what they have done. Only you can say how much you can handle, and when it is time to move on. Anyway, read the posts here, the books, Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy (and there are many other books too), and start a thread where you can vent and ask questions, and journal your life's journey through this stressful time. I hope things work out for you, but know that if they don't as you want them to, then you will still be okay, if you choose to be.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
