How to become affectionate again when W doesn't...

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Ok...I have a post over in Newcomers and you can get the story as it unfolds there. I appreciate any help and advice anyone may have in that post.

Now for this one. I have been DBing for a little over a month. My W and I haven't shard any type of affection for about 2 1/2 months. No hug, kiss, hand holding, touch, etc. I am the one that wants to work on the marriage and my W is having a EA, maybe PA. Not sure.

So how do I try and get more affectionate with her without upsetting her. I don't want to pressure her into anything but would like an occasional hug, kiss, etc. I am hoping that it would help things but I don't know if she is ready for that.

Do I try and see what happens or wait for her to make the move? I am thinking that I wait for her but wanted some more advice. Please read my entire sitch to get what was/is going on.

I want so bad just to hold her. Help please.