I'm willing to accept that the loss of desire in the once-HD wife is not intentional, nor is it malicious, in most cases.
But I don't accept the generalization that most men stop being romantic or exhibiting other wooing behavior, nor do I let the once-HD woman off the hook for what she DOES (or doesn't do) in response to these changes, even if they are non-intentional and lacking in any malevolent motives.
We all speak from our own experiences, and I can only speak authoritatively based on mine. In my marriage, I am the romantic one, I am the complimenting one, and I am the affectionate (even outside of sexual touch) one. Always was, always inherently will be. I've since cut BACK on those things, like many of the HD husbands on here have, out of some combination of hurt, resentment and plain-ol' lack of RESULTS, but to me it comes down to EFFORT:
Once the LD spouse knows what's important to the HD partner, and how it's killing them, how much continual effort are they willing to make to at least TRY?
