I confess to getting a little twitchy at the "wife set me up" assertions. I know that sort of thing happens, but I think it's the exception rather than the norm.
I think its the "norm" for it to *feel* that way. heck, I believe Michelle even talks about this very thing in the book. So it ain't just ol' CeMar making this up. the "big picture" or "reality" of the situation isn't important; its how it feels.
I understand that some men feel this way. And I absolutely believe that some women enter relationships in such a calculating manner. But a woman who expresses sexuality for a number of years into the marriage, probably isn't one of those.
I believe that one's feelings have to be examined. I also believe that what we tell ourselves impacts those feelings. Believing that your wife set you up, tricked you, manipulated you with sex is going to impact how you act toward her.
I don't think the reasons some women's sex drive declines should be used as excuses to refuse to address the issue, but I do think that the possible causes should be taken into consideration.
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But as far as that goes, I could list a number of grievances that are often claimed as causes or contributors to the LD situation...so why aren't I LD? because I'm just not. I suspect there's a "genetic predisposition" for the condition. some people are susceptible, and some aren't.
You aren't LD, because you have a functioning amount of hormones, mentality, history, thought process, lack of damage, health, etc. that results in your higher sex drive.
I agree that there probably is something genetic to it. From what I have read, there are multiple causes. For the LD folks who are actively working on the issue, it's not easy and/or simple one to address. It can feel insurmountable to those who haven't fully decided to work on it and it can be quite overwhelming for those who do.
