Corrie, i swiped this from your girl help II thread: ______________________________________________________
Feeling safe is a real big one. If I don't feel safe, if I feel pressured, if I feel that there is 'expectation,' involved, it escalates my sense of panic... and I start to emotionally detach, even if I don't want to. I always need to have the 'opt out' option, ____________________________________________________
WOW ! That sounds exactly like my wife. She's told me before that she doesn't like to do "special occassion" sex. What she meant was that if she knew it was expected of her, she would shut down. We talked about this when while we were dating, I took her to our company christmas party. Very formal & we spent a bundle on clothes to go, and I guess I expected that after such a nice evening, we would top it off with some whoopie....NOT. Then here's the one I never got over: We didn't do ANYTHING on our wedding night.It was about 2 days later before we ML.We got married on Valentines day too.
Anyway the guy HAP (?) that you were responding to, his sitch sounds exactly like mine, or at least the way he feels about everything. I'd sure like to talk to him, and see how his deal turned out.
