Hi ladies, Mind if a guy jumps into this hen party? have any of you thought about the possibility that your LD husbands might have been abused as a child or teen ? My wife was and this lead to problems between us and eventually her cheating ( looOOOoong story, find my post). I've really been reading up on this, and I'm amazed at the effects it has on adults, even years into marriages when things finally start surfacing.
One of you wrote about not even liking the toys any more. I completely understand. After awhile, masturbation becomes a cruel reminder that you're not getting what you need. I don't think I'm nessisarily HD, but I would be extatic if my wife felt about sex like you do. we had a pretty good sex life until stress caused her to become depressed and even having panic attacks. Then it went from every week to every month and then w/o foreplay (knew then that she was just doing it to keep me quiet) to 3 months and then.....oh yeah, havent done it since then. that was easter.
we're seperated now. I think it was something I said....like GET THE F**K OUT OF MY HOUSE! after having caught her cheating. She was having a very active sex life with her guy friend from work. That hurt, and I know if we were to get back together, we have alot to go through dealing with her child abuse issues. But the fact is, that I love her more than I do sex. Is this crazy ? idunno. But I do know that if something doesn't happen soon, I'm going to move on and start dating. There are waaaay too many lonely sex starved women out there to sit around waiting on someone who says she can't make love to me becouse she loves me too deeply. She said she could have sex with OM because it wasn't so intimate. Sounds like bullsh!t to me !!!! But I have read alot that confirms that that is normal in her situation. Sorry if I got y'all off the subject.
