First, sorry. Second, who am I posting to? I thought it was V-Wife? And I don't know what her (or your ?) sitch is in that, okay we get that he has LD. But as you said, there are other issues. Sounds as if it is a lot more than just LD. LD for sex is a drag and if that were the only problem, in and of itself --- like a low testosterone level, it'd be much less complicated.. This sounds as if you are saying it's, LD for sex PLUS LD for intimacy, --huge issue- and maybe LD for explaining and working on it----even larger issue(s).
Nope, no toys for that. If you read my earlier posts to VW, I mean the same for LD men as women. If my H refused to provide this essential aspect of marriage, which ONLY HE can provide WITHIN the M, to me (and it IS an essential, it is more than a perk)...sorry if this sounds harsh, but for ME, it'd just be a deal breaker. Sure, I'd give it some time, warn, explain, etc. But if it comes down to no sex the rest of my life, or very little sex and only begrudingly given, see you later. That is just cruel to do to someone inside the M and for God's sake, why would he want to be M at all, if there is no intimacy?
I am missing too many pieces to this puzzle to understand him/this/your stich and cannot offer anything useful without the other pieces. Is he getting help? Does he love you? How long has this been going on? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
