I don't know your sitch as to who is the LD or not. But if you are the LD one AND you are female, please re-read my note to you....I just don't understand how women (and yes, I am a woman) can expect what is effectively forced celebacy onto their husbands and then act betrayed/hurt/mystified/like victims when their husbands stray....what are you thinking is going to happen? I don't know your sitch or whether your H is a "sexual addict", etc. but it is far far easier for a woman with LD to just enjoy the intimacy of ml regardless of your libido, then it is for a man with the same problem. I was clinically depressed with grief after my father died, but I still wanted to feel close to my h, and we ml often without me ever " wanting it" in the purely sexual sesne. That's why they call it Making love, and not "making sex".
I'm sorry if this is N/A to you, or if it IS and it offends, but I wanted to know that at least one "fellow woman" said to you that a a guy does have a right to believe sex will happen.
Every time my brother tried to romance his wife so she could "First, feel close" she'd feel manipulated. IF my brother didn't make any effort of course, she'd refuse since she didn't feel close. As a result, my brother "got to have sex" with his wife, IF and WHEN she felt close to him, for whatever reason totally beyond his control or predictability. They are divorced. He is remarried and much happier.
good luck, and like I said, I only have bits and pieces of your story so If I am off base, I am sorry. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
