Yes, it tends to be an assumption that we make that the toy comes with the happy meal...but we don't generally get to specify that we get the exact toy we want do we? Sometimes the toy in the happy meal is a complete surprise (at least at other places than McDonald's...and even sometimes there you don't get what you thought you would.)
Not to mention that people don't discuss what their sex life should be like BEFORE we marry, so we can make sure we are both on the same page. I brought this very thing up in a MC of ours. I told our MC & my LDH "if I would have realized that in marrying you I was sentencing myself to a life of celebacy...I wouldn't have married you. Most people marry because they are willing to reserve certain parts of themselves, such as their sexual selves solely for that person they love...it's one of the "perks" of marriage."
I'm going to say something to you...and I don't mean to attack so please know this is just something I'm throwing out there ok? If I remember correctly....you are the LD partner in your M right? Well, so is my H. Your comment "How hard SHOULD we have to work for sex?" makes me feel like....you aren't willing to work to fulfill a need that is important to your H because it's uncomfortable for you. At least...that is how it would come across to my ears should my LDH say that to me. No offense, but it comes across that you'd rather let go of your M than do the work it takes to dig down deep inside and figure this issue out. Sure, it can be difficult and it can be painful to get to the bottom of issues like this....BUT IMPO, until you have tried EVERYTHING within your power to thoroughly investigate this issue and attempt to at the very least compromise with your HD spouse then running away from the M is just simply taking the easy way out...for you. Not saying that's what you intend to do, just answering your question from my POV.
