I honestly have no idea what else it could be. The ONLY complaint that he has consistently lodged during our 11 yr marriage has been that I try to control him. For the record, he is just as controlling as I am--and neither of us is all that bad--but we're not supposed to talk about him, are we.
So, yes, it is the repetition that drives me crazy with him, and always has. I have no problem staying calm or speaking in a way that is not inflammatory. But the next day, you're damn right I feel baited.
The only thing I can come up with is that it's really not about me. I mean, it IS but his desire to be a softy with the kids overrides his desire to stick with our agreement.
The real question here is why doesn't he come down after turning off the alarm and say, I turned off her alarm because she should be allowed to sleep in. At least that, I could respect!
Say, we had a situation yesterday in which his sister (who is the meanest cruelest person I've ever met) was berating her husband in front of us. He was asking How High with huge, fearful eyes. MrH was incredulous that he'd do that around her, when he'd tell absolutely anyone else in the world to screw off if they treated him like that. (he is a physically huge person) I grabbed MrH by the arm and said, If I ever speak to you like that, do not EVER do what he did and morph into a scared little boy. So far, I have managed to stay totally in love with you and still have the hots for you but behavior like that would sap that in a heartbeat.
He made some disparaging remark about women and how they boss you around but if you actually do it, you'll pay the consequences. (lol)
Anyway, thanks for responding, Bets. Yeah yeah, emailing. I am SO bad about keeping up with email correspondence. But I will fight through that lethargy and send you a bit o honey. lol
