Betsey, I can't remember exactly how the convo went, on the first day, but it was something like that. Me fact-finding, him not saying much other than he felt sorry for her, etc. I was not mad or shrew-ish at all.
On the *second* day, I felt irritated but still kept my cool and did the best I could with a fudged up schedule and we revisited the previous days' conversation, somewhat. Not as nice or fact finding and more of a "I thought we talked about this yesterday...?" and him looking abashed but not terribly sorry.
By the third day, I was just incredulous and didn't know how to handle it so I ignored him and just got to work. (honestly, if I lose even a half hour I have to cut out an entire subject or do it later in the day, which I am *loathe* to do, and yes I realize that is my own problem, not his)
So, in dazzling P/A fashion, I end up looking like a hag in D7's eyes and her dad is her henpecked hero who was not entirely successful with his mission. IT SUCKS!
But, in the interest of presenting the whole picture to my bb friends, I asked him a question about the alarm clock the other day and he replied, Oh we resolved that. I don't care about waking her up anymore. Men.
So here is my question to you, Bets.
I've got what to do on day 1 down. What do I do the next day when I'm stuck in some freakin P/A groundhog day scene?
Corri, MrH likes hugs but not other forms of touch, like massages or caresses. He is not overly fond of sexual behavior outside the bedroom cause it bums him out that he gets all hot and bothered and then can't do anything about it. He'd rather wait til later but, bless his heart, he has totally changed this attitude cause he knows I like the flirting and ass grabbing, etc. He is a vacation sex man, provided we are alone. If the kids are there, it's a tossup. Maybe, maybe not.
So here's the final analysis: He likes physical touch but he prefers: 1) to be the initiator, and 2) for it to be mainly extended hugs with the new addition of ass grabs and the like. He doesn't like to go 'too far' during times when sex is not a possibility and he does not like to be touched randomly, say, while watching tv or reading a book. Then he will recoil and usually ask me to stop. He does not like to be touched while sleeping.
In short, he is very controlling about who touches him and when but he is not anti-touch.
