When is conversation and chewing the fat just that, and when does it begin to creep over into a need for validation and inappropirate emotional attachment?

I was wondering the same thing myself. Got hauled up by the boss yesterday for not giving the job 100%. Could be because I'm always sneaking a peek in here. And if I'm not sneaking a peek I'm composing new posts (on Word to post later). Every 5 minutes I'm doing a quick switcheroo between the window I'm meant to be in and the board window. It's not good

You guys do help, a lot, but chatting to RL friends usually happens outside of work hours.

What I think is most obsessive about being here is the amount of true sharing that goes on, and that sharing is what is lacking in our Rs. We share here BECAUSE IT IS ANONYMOUS and we feel safe. The 2*4s don't hurt that bad, no-one can see us tear up, we can take our time and think about a reply. That doesn't happen IRL.

I'm thinking of taking a breather from the board. I think I need to focus my energy on really working on the R with H not on composing posts to others here, or validating myself by posting my long and involved side of the story.

So - cheerio - au revoir - auf weidersehn - ciao. Bye

Good luck to all of you.

Fran

if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong