You are cracking my azz UP, woman, and this... almost written stuttering reaction you've got going on... This must be a very, very difficult thing for you to do... the whole 'needing' him thing... I think we've struck gold here.
I'm very proud of you for telling him how good the foot massage felt. 10 giant kudos and one big 'ATTAGIRL!!' That's it. Your getting it!!
Baby steps, honey. You're one brave chick... and if **I** can do it... I know you can. Doesn't mean you won't have heart palpatations along the way... but in taking baby steps with yourself, you'll give him the opportunity to take baby steps as well... and learn as he goes.