Kinda goes back to the one-up idea, doesn’t it. Having to ask makes you feel vulnerable and one-down. It is a loss of control, IMO, and why it is scary. Robbing your mate of a “soul exchange” moment also robs him of the chance face his issues and give comfort. Until you allow this opportunity to happen, he is stuck in his growth too. For him to feel bonded, he needs to practice bonding, not just talk about it. To not let him practice keeps a shield around you.
I agree with you 100% on this one. Absolutely. This was a MAJOR mistake I made in my M. Major.
But I am he!! bent for sideways not to let it happen again.
