The kind of discusson that you described amounts to a woman's way of finding out where you are in the R or for some women (depending on where they are in the R) just making conversation about something that they are interested in. IMO - your only duty is to respond to the stated message. "Oh, you'd like to have 3 daughters by the time you are 40? Well, that sounds nice. Personally, I'm working on finding someone to make a life with and not making decisions on children yet." (or whatever the case is for you). It could be that what all these women need to hear from you is.... "Ya, know - I just got divorced and I don't intend to make any long term plans about relationships, homes, marriage, or children for a good, long while."
My personal take on where you are is that you are making some defensive choices right now - keeping the walls up and I don't think that is necessarily a bad thing. There are times in life when the walls have a purpose. When you find the person for whom it is worth it to take the walls down you'll know. IMO, you are doing fine.
Anyway, Happy Birthday. Will you spending it with any of the contestants for the Mrs. Blackfoot contest (kidding) or are you doing something else?
