Quote: Sooooooo, back to me. Well, my defensive reaction to that is this: MrH does *not* make it easy for me to open up. In fact, it makes him so uncomfortable that he immediately shuts the convo down. "Uhhhh, honeypot......you know, I'm going to go run a bath for you." End of discussion. This can be about depression over my dad's death, or my insecurities about my mothering skills, you name it. Anything that hints of intimacy makes him uncomfortable.
However, this doesn't get me off the hook does it. There is one time that he positively clamors for my intimate conversation...during spiritual discussions. Where am I during those? Out to friggin lunch. I can't go there with him. WHY I don't know.
In regards to mourning:
My suggestion is to tie the two together. Sadness over your dad's death? Track down various scriptures and biblical stories that deal with just this thing. Jesus mourning over the death of Lazarus, listening to Martha and Mary's lamentations.
Discuss the Beatitude that states: ""Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." Ask him what his understanding is of that verse and how it can be expressed amongst believers.
Insecurity regarding your calling as a mom:
Moses had and expressed his doubts to do what God was calling him to do. "I can't lead! I can't speak!" Or Jonah who received the call and promptly started running away as quickly as he could. Eli rearing Samuel to hear and respond to God's calling. Perhaps research the verses that address whether or not God provides and sustains that for which you have been called.
See what I mean? Take the topics you want and need to talk about, ask him to help you find scriptures that apply and that can give you guidance and support and/or share those you have located yourself. Philosophizing about Scripture can be interesting. However, question that takes more than a pat answer is "how to I practically live my faith on a daily basis". Moves it out of the theoretical and right into the nitty gritty of your own life.
