Yes, I saw it posted many days ago you were turning(?) 40, what ever turning means. I was trying to mind my own "P & Q" but found I can't stay away from the forum.
Nice to see you have the insights to what is going on in your mind and R. Thanks for posting those things as sometimes I know things go on in our R but don't know how to describe it.
Underdog, HI. Good to see your posts. With as much a insight, smarts, and all of the other good qualities you have. I wonder why your situation turned out the way it did, but I know it takes two to make a M work. Sometimes I wonder if I am a little like Mr. W. I do know I try to make things work.
I was really intrigued by your posts at many times and read them weekly ( big job due to the numerous posts and replies). Lots of good stuff for anyone interested in reading underdog's post.
HP, nice to see you again and yes, your H's connection to his religion or the distance he felt for you and the M, I can imagine that. Not because you or he or the R wasn't something it should have been, but because some people avoid the real problems. (That is, the real problem according to him/me/anyone. It is related to the problem of trying to maintain the peace within the R.
In true Mr. H fashion, he says "Wow I wish I would have known this years ago.." Maybe my reason for this same thought is different, but there are tons of things I wish I would have know about that I am learning now that would have been helpful and maybe avoided many problems.
All my life I've been brought up to think that men should be falling at my feet, spilling out their desire and unending love, without me having to reciprocate in any way. Well that attitude gets reinforced everyday through the stories like "Snow White" and all of that other white horse myth.
Of course, there is also the suffering "Stand By Your Man" and more recently Hoe's and B's in rap music which I hate to hear. It's good most people don't choose either extreme.
Take care all and I'll stop in when I have another realization or whenever Betsey and Blackie shine their danged flashlights under the rock I've been hiding.
Hay, that is a good one. I will say me too to that one.
