Corri--I'm glad you know that you're making progress. I'm very encouraged by the growth you share here. You rock, woman.
Blackie--You raise some excellent points yourself. You're right about putting our needs/requests out there authentically. It's the ONLY way--far more honest, way less manipulative.
BTW, I enjoy reading your posts too. You're probably the only male here who holds CeMar's testicles to the wall on this desire/LD crap. He's been posting almost as long as I have, and is the only person on this miserable BB who hasn't seemed to make any progress. I'm guessing that his lack of authenticity here carries over into his M as well? I know that his antics would have chased my libido all the way to hell...
I'm around some. I mostly read here (because I pray that some of the people who post in SSM see that their sex issues are directly related to how they interact with their spouses) but I have a thread in Hopefulness and have a few friends scattered in other places too. I go through periods of not wanting to post, but I seem to be in a sharing mode at the moment. Must be the approaching holidays or something.
I miss Honey! Tell her to come back...
And thanks for the compliment. That is a direct result of forcing myself to see things differently, courtesy of my XH. I honestly do appreciate the fact that his leaving forced me to grow up.
Incidentally, Mr. W. told me on occasion that he felt like I saw him as a life support system to his wallet. I used to laugh at that comment, mostly because the visual was just so damn funny. However, now I see that his comment wasn't about me but about his fears. He's even more touchy about money now that we're D, but I work HARD at communications so he doesn't walk away feeling as though I'm trying to weasel more money out of him than I already get. Some days are much tougher than others...
Hope you both have marvelous weekends!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 
