The things I am talking about I guess relate more to self than other. For example... if I get mad because someone is not doing something the way I like... yet I have not expressed what I like... then getting mad at them is not acting with integrity. To me.
Conversely, saying to someone... you need to do X this way and that way because its the way I like it... yet they cannot or will not... and me continuing to get angry about it... is not acting with integrity. For I am not accepting 'other.'
It can be a problem, to be sure. But I have to ask myself... is my 'like' a preference or a non-negotiable item? If it is a preference, what and how far am I willing to compromise? If it is a non-negotiable to me... the ball is MY court to decide my action/reaction to the situation to honor myself and my integrity... not to get pissy with the other person because they just won't do it my way. That just leads to a power struggle, in my mind.
But... in most instances, I have to determine first what are MY preferences and what are MY non-negotiables, and THAT is what keeps me busy being ME and out of someone else's sh!t. And... I still fck up, I still 'miss,' I'm still imperfect, and that takes up my time, too.
My point here, is... it starts with self and ends with self. It isn't so much about the other person, or it not being uncomfortable, or it being easy or not easy, or it being win/win, black/white or any shade of gray in between.
